The Four Basics


I am always open to adding a female partner to my life if they are someone who would make my life better, not worse. The following four basic attributes would be a foundation I would look for in a woman who I would consider as a potential partner. These four things are not optional, not mix and match or will ever change. A woman who lacks these four basic attributes would not be someone who I would consider as a potential partner. In short, she must be physically fit, educated and emotionally stable with some potential flexibility on item #4:


  1. She is living a healthy and fit lifestyle. That means exercising every day, eating a healthy diet, having no bad habits like smoking tobacco and having a healthy body mass index (Normal Weight, Not Overweight, Not Obese). Moderate alcohol and marijuana use is acceptable. I will not put any further effort into learning more about numbers 2-4 about a woman who does not maintain her body with the goal of enjoying a healthy, active life. I will never consider inviting someone into my life who does not understand the importance of maintaining her body and has not already dedicated herself to doing so.
  2. She has honestly earned at least a bachelor degree from a reputable university. No cheating, no plagiarism, etc. Anything built from something not honestly earned is stolen.

  1. She is emotionally stable. This means a lot of things. She respects herself, has healthy self esteem, uses good judgement when inviting people into her life, has high moral standards, associates only with decent, honest, honorable, quality people, etc.

  1. She has No children. That doesn't mean no children at home, it means no children, no grandchildren. I have a VERY minor flexibility on this item depending on the presence of factors 1 and 3 above in her and her children or grandchildren and the specific circumstances of her situation. 

This is not by any means my perfect partner just the foundation for the type of person I would invite into my life to make it better, not worse. Perfection would be a woman who, in addition to the basic 1-4, is also left handed, politically liberal, vegan, atheist, animal lover and is small breasted and bottomed and ? That is, of course, not realistic, but someone having all of these traits would make me a happy camper. I don't expect perfection, however, and could work around some of these things if my partner could work around those traits in me. BTW, I have all of the traits listed above.

Why do I have this page? I am happy as a solitary person and I have a great life. People often seem to assume that I am lonely or looking for someone. I never feel lonely, alone or depressed and I am not actively looking for a partner, but I do see the benefits to be enjoyed by having the right partner in my life, so I am open to that possibility. There seem to be a lot of lonely (and maybe needy and/or depressed) people, both men and women, in my age range (50s-60s) and I am tired of explaining my philosophy on this topic and occasionally having to deal with advances from women who I am not interested in. I'm not on social media, by choice, so this page is an easy way to communicate my stance on this subject. It is a time saver for me and any interested parties, suitable or unsuitable. I don't have much in common with the people in the geographic region where I live, in general, so it is especially frustrating for me as it seems unlikely that I will meet a potential partner here. Enough so, that I have a page for the topic!