Why do I have this
page? I am very happy as a solitary person and I have a
great life. People often seem to assume that I am lonely or
looking for a partner. I never feel lonely, alone or
depressed and I am not actively looking for a partner, but I
do see the benefits to be enjoyed by having the right
partner in my life, so I am open to that possibility. There
seem to be a lot of lonely people, both men and women, in my
age range (50s-60s) who are looking for partners and I am
tired of explaining my philosophy on this topic and
occasionally having to deal with advances from women who I
am not interested in or with people who are trying to "fix
me up". I'm not on social media, by choice, so this page is
an easy way to communicate my stance on this subject. It is
a time saver for me and any interested parties, suitable or
unsuitable.
I am always open to adding a female partner to my
life if they are someone who would make my life better, not
worse. The following four basic attributes would be a foundation
I would look for in a woman in my age range (50s-60s) who I would
consider as a potential partner. These four things are not
optional, not mix and match or will ever change. A woman who
lacks these four basic attributes would not be someone who I
would consider as a potential partner. In short, she must be
physically fit, educated and emotionally stable with some
potential flexibility on item #4:
She has honestly earned at least a bachelor
degree from a reputable university. No cheating, no
plagiarism, etc. Anything built from something not honestly
earned is stolen. Why? Besides being an honorable person a
prospective partner in completing a bachelor degree should
have learned to do research, determine fact from fiction,
make informed decisions and reasoned conclusions. It will
also give us a common educational basis for communication.
She is emotionally stable. This means a lot
of things. She respects herself, has healthy self esteem,
uses good judgement when inviting people into her life, has
high moral standards, associates only with decent, honest,
honorable, quality people, etc. She has the ability to
clearly communicate her thoughts, feelings, wants and needs.
Why? I have been with partners who were not emotionally
stable, did not make good decisions in who they brought into
our relationship or had issues with communicating. Any
of these things can destabilize and stress a relationship.
She has No children. That
doesn't mean no children at home, it means no children, no
grandchildren. I have a VERY minor flexibility on this
item depending on the presence of factors 1 and 3 above in
her and her children or grandchildren and the specific
circumstances of her situation. Why? It just adds
complexity and vulnerability to a relationship increasing
the chances of failure. Under the right circumstances, I
might consider a partner with children or grandchildren.
These four basic things are not
my
ideal of a perfect partner, just the foundation for the type
of person I would invite into my life to make it better, not
worse. Perfection would be a woman who, in addition to the
basics 1-4, is also, like me, left handed, politically
liberal, vegan/vegetarian, atheist, animal lover and is small
breasted and bottomed and ? It is not reasonable to expect
that I would find all of these additional traits in a
potential partner, but someone having all of these traits
would make me a happy camper. I don't expect perfection and could work around some
of these things if a potential partner could work around these
traits in me if they did not match their ideal.